Let’s face it! We’re young, dumb, and full of…. life! And some of us need more direction than others. No worries. Seek and you shall find exactly what you’re looking for. Below are 6 tips that could potentially help you get more stimulation between the sheets AND with your day to day interactions with other human beings.
- Have a good attitude: Be POSITIVE
a. In the bedroom: When you’re in the bedroom, congratulations! You’ve made it to the bedroom and now all you have to do is deliver a good time. When your love interest has agreed to be in the bedroom with you, your chances of getting laid are pretty high, if not practically guaranteed… So, be happy! Be positive! Nobody wants to do it with pessimistic or sad person. Being those things or being around that person would probably kill any boner.
b. In LIFE: There will always be two sides to every experience that you will ever have in life and they are: the good side and the bad side, it just depends which side you’ll look at and focus on. Trust me, if you don’t already know, the mind is a powerful thing. If you always tend to focus on the negative, your life will be full of negativity. If you always tend to look at the up side of things, your life will be full of positivity, progress, and happiness.
- FOCUS on the good things: Tell ‘em what you LIKE.
a. In the bedroom: During sex, be open and honest. Nobody’s perfect and the younger you are, the more chances you’ll be inexperienced. How do you fix that? By going out there and doing things, trying new things, and experimenting. If you lie to your partner, you’ll only be lying to yourself and wasting your time. When your lover goes down on you, but doesn’t do a very good job, say something right when your lover does something right. It’s like letting them know when they’re pressing the right button. When you tell her/him what you like, chances are, he/she will do it more often. When you accomplish this, you both win; your lover is able to please you and you get some awesome oral!
b. In LIFE: When you constantly tell people what you like about them it’s called complimenting. People love compliments because they rarely hear them! People love being recognized for things they worked hard to accomplish. So be generous with your compliments, they don’t cost you a thing!
- Loosen up! Be YOURSELF.
a. In the bedroom: Loosen up, literally! The only thing that should be stiff in the bedroom is that penis! Sex is about having that connection with another person, moving as one, and getting lost in the ecstasy. Learn how to roll your body, your hips, your shoulders, and your neck. Think of being as fluid like water, but sexy and sensual like a porno. C’mon we’ve all watched porn. If you haven’t, then oh boy. You’ve got some homework to do, buddy. Practice in the mirror. Be comfortable being yourself. Work with what you got!
b. In LIFE: What most people don’t realize, is that in life, there’s almost no right or wrong way of doing things. Society, media, and our peers set limitations and rules for you and it’s up to you whether or not you want to follow them or blaze your own trail. Who cares if your friends don’t all like what you like. There will never be another you and you will never have another chance at life; you only have one.
- Be a TEASE.
a. In the bedroom: Being a tease is also known as foreplay. Foreplay makes sex even BETTER. Whether it’s something simple as talking dirty over text or even whispering something naughty into your lover’s ear, foreplay adds a little excitement and spice that will help catapult you into the bedroom (if you’re not already in there). Use your imagination when you tease. Savor every sound, scent, and touch before the real thing. Trust me. Teasing done right will make your lover want to rip your clothes off faster than ever.
b. In LIFE: Be a tease. Laugh a little. Everyone enjoys being around someone that they can have a good laugh with. Savor the moments. Life is about a series of moments that you have with the people you want to remember. Always try to keep your relationships and interactions light and fun. It’s true, there are plenty of things in the world to be stressed about, but there are even more things to be happy about! Being funny is one of the most searched for traits in a relationship—intimate or platonic. People love to laugh!
- Be a GIVER: When you give more, you get more.
a. In the bedroom: Givers breed more givers (in my experience). Not only will your lover appreciate you even more, but you give yourself a chance to work it and polish your skills. We’ve heard it before: “Practice makes perfect.” Everybody loves givers in the bedroom. Why? Only to be fair, wouldn’t you want to reward someone that goes that extra mile for you to feel oh so good? YES. Unless you don’t like being fair, which in that case… Bless your soul.
b. In LIFE: Nobody will care how much you know, own or earn, until they know how much you care. When you have something you’re capable of giving, why not? Don’t give to get, give without expectation. When you give out of the kindness of your heart, people will notice and you will be happier. Gratitude is key for happiness. People that are depressed, accept depression and often forget to be thankful for what they have or don’t notice what people do for them.
- Lastly, don’t be weird.
a. & B. In the bedroom & in LIFE: Easy. Be respectful, nice, a gentleman. Don’t be a creep. Don’t stalk your lover. You each have your own lives to live. If you do well in the bedroom, your lover will ask for more. Keep things real. The key to getting over embarrassing things, like an unexpected fart or queef, is laughing it off. When something awkward happens, DON’T pretend like it didn’t happen, LAUGH it off. Why? You can’t act like it didn’t happen, there were witnesses: you and your lover. So have a good laugh about it then and there. Chances are, if you guys laugh about it then, you’ll laugh about it later again like a funny joke you might remember later.
SO DO IT! And I mean that both ways. Improving both is good for you. Nobody’s perfect, but life is great because we all have the power to choose to strive for perfection. Keep these 6 tips in mind and surely, you’ll have a more stimulating life in the bedroom and out. Happy humping!
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