No one is perfect, and no one’s life is perfect. We all have those inner struggles to deal with, and those annoying family members that aren’t going away. And things happen, we get strokes of bad luck, and it puts us in a funk.
But for some, getting depressed is serious business. And when you’re depressed it feels like you’re never going to be happy again. You start questioning your self worth, and it’s easy to spiral downward into this deep, dark, and very scary place.
And as someone who has always suffered from depression, I know this deep and dark place very well. I’ve had many ups and downs- I’m married with a beautiful son. But my depression has come back, and a lot of times it feels like I’m just completely stuck.
And if you know where I’m coming from, you get into this state of thinking that you’ll never be anyone special, and you feel like you aren’t good enough and your life is destined to forever be boring and crappy. But depression is a much more common disorder than people think. It’s just like having diabetes, or high blood pressure. But it’s been stigmatized, people think you’re crazy, or they walk on egg shells around you. Or sometimes people that don’t understand just don’t want to deal with you because they don’t know what to say.
But there are so many people that have become such successes in life despite their depression. Did you know that Ben Stiller has Bi-Polar disorder? Mental illness should no longer be a taboo subject, something that no one talks about. With the proper management and help, you can be just as normal as everyone else. We just have to work harder at it.
Buzz Aldrin was known to have depression, and he went to the moon. THE MOON! If that isn’t inspirational, I don’t know what is.
Eric Clapton suffers from major depressive disorder, and he is one of the most well known classic rock musicians in the world. You can hear his sadness in a lot of his music, and I’m sure that his suffering, in addition to his talent, is what made him such a success. His son also died tragically as a young boy, and yet he was still able to overcome his extreme struggles in his life.
There are so many other people that we all know and love today that battle with their minds on a daily basis, just like so many of us regular folk. Louis C.K., Sheryl Crow, Winston Churchill, Ken Griffey Jr., Anne Hathaway, and the list goes on, and on, and on.
Having depression does not mean that your life will forever suck. It’s harder to see the glass half full, but it doesn’t make it impossible. There is inspiration in everything. There is nothing to be ashamed about because this is a real thing, it is a real, debilitating problem and it’s becoming even more of an issue in our country’s state of economy. But just like Buzz, you can overcome it and you can become what you want to be. Never give up on yourself, because no one is going to do your job for you. You need to love yourself, and become your best friend. Because in the end, no matter how much support you have and no matter how great your friends are, you are your biggest critic and your worst enemy. And until you battle that, you’ll always have that nagging sadness deep down inside.
But it will always get better. Life ebbs and flows and it doesn’t stop for anyone. Just treat yourself with respect. Every day, give yourself a compliment. Pat yourself on the back for something that seems silly. “I got in the shower today, good job”, or “I got to work on time today, that’s awesome”. Don’t sell yourself short.
Pay for someone’s coffee when you go to Starbucks, it will make you feel good about yourself for doing something nice, and as a believer in karma, I guarantee it will come back around for you in some way or another.
And as the great Thomas Edison once said, “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time”.