Don’t Let Your Past Be Your Future: 5 Things I Learned Getting Back With My Ex

Hitting up your ex, haven’t we all considered it? It’d be easier to just get back with someone who already knows us, and just fall back into our usual routine, right?
Maybe not.

You both broke up for a reason, remember that. It might take all your family and friends to tell you how stupid it would be to go back to this person, or learning the hard way like me. Here’s 5 things I learned:

1. There’s a reason you broke up in the first place.
Stop fooling yourself. You tried it and it didn’t work out, so why relapse? You fantasize that everything will be put behind you so you both can live happily ever. Chances are, it won’t. There might be that one exception, but if you break up more than once-WALK AWAY.

Some people just don’t work together, so stop forcing it.

2. You’re both still carrying the baggage from your relationship.
The moment you start disrespecting each other, it’s over. Walk away. Love is respect. Respecting yourself and respecting your partner.

No matter how many times you apologize and try to rebuild that trust, it’s been shattered. Trust is difficult to build, and almost impossible to put back together.

3. There are plenty of other people out there. Remember why you and this person don’t work out.

You loved this person, I get it. You invested all your time, emotions and memories with a person. Let’s face it though-those memories are in the past. You can learn to love all over again, and create new memories with someone else. Happy memories.

Think of your ex as practice for the real thing. There is someone out there for everyone, I promise. You’ll meet him or her at the right place, the right time, the right you.

So…walk away.

4. Love yourself before you can love someone else.
In order to be in a relationship, you must first love yourself. Respect yourself and know your worth. Once you get revelation of this, you’ll know that you deserve better.

Self love is the most important type of love. It effects everything-your job, your relationship, your future. If you truly loved yourself, you’ll know that disrespect or cheating is not something to settle for. You’ll have that “on to the next” mentality.

Don’t ever depend on someone else to make you happy. You should find happiness within yourself. They should just be an added “bonus” to your life.

5. Wasted time is worse than wasted money.
Think of it this way: every time you get back with your ex, you are wasting valuable time. Time that you can spend being happy and surrounding yourself with people that make you happy.

Do you want to be in a relationship spent arguing, fighting and bringing up the past? It’s not healthy for either of you. If you’re lonely, take on a new hobby, hit the gym or find other ways to keep yourself busy. Don’t confuse your loneliness with missing this person.

Chances are, the moment you walk away, your life will fall into place. You’ll allow yourself the time to grow and be a better version of yourself. You might meet new people, get closer to your family, get a job promotion. So many great things will come out of you leaving something not worth your time.

Move forward, don’t move backwards.

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