Have you ever noticed how great the idea of forgiveness is, until you find yourself unable to do it yourself?
At some point in your life, somebody has hurt you. Maybe it was a bully at school, your parents, a roommate, or an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. It’s part of life.
Now you might be thinking: yeah, but you don’t know what this person did to me!
You’re probably right.
That’s what I thought when I found myself in a bad place a few years ago. What I didn’t realize, was that my inability to forgive is what got me there, not the people I was angry at.
To get out of this bad place, I had to let it go. Here’s a list of why you should let it go too:
1. We are all human and we make mistakes.
As we get older, it becomes harder to forgive. Our perception of the world begins to change after someone hurts us for the first time. We learn to put our guard up.
When my parents divorced, I became angry at the world. I put up walls that weren’t knocked down until I learned to forgive. Forgiving my dad is the best thing to have happened to our relationship. Now we can build something greater than we ever had.
If there is somebody you are still upset with, acknowledge that this person is human. They are allowed to make mistakes. Even you are allowed to mistakes, so stop beating yourself up for them.
2. Being angry takes too much work.
Staying angry at someone is like harboring poison in our bodies and expecting the other person to suffer. These negative emotions, such as pride or anger, actually wear our bodies out.
It takes less energy to love and forgive than it does to hold a grudge.
3. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.
If you have too much pride to forgive, consider yourself weak.
Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, and it definitely doesn’t mean what this person did was okay. Forgiving just means that you are strong enough to let go of the anger towards someone and move on.
4. Forgiveness is for the forgiver.
Stop thinking about the past and whatever this person did to you. I mean, since when has living in the past done anything for you?
If you choose to stay angry at someone, you become a prisoner, and only YOU are capable of freeing yourself.
Okay, so maybe this person doesn’t deserve for you to forgive them. One thing is for sure: YOU deserve to be free. Forgive for yourself, not because this person deserves it.
5. Forgiveness if the key to happiness.
Forgiveness is the first step toward inner peace. You cannot be at peace with yourself if you are holding a grudge, or if you can’t forgive yourself.
You deserve to be happy, so don’t let resentment steal your joy. Stop thinking about it, and just do it. You’ll be on your way to a peaceful life!