It always begins with self-hatred. Even the smallest embarrassing moments can penetrate the mind with thoughts of insecurity and self-betrayal. Some moments can truly destroy your spirit. Feelings of embarrassment are normal after your embarrassing ‘traumatic’ event. However, if you have allowed yourself to dwell on past embarrassing events after a month or even years, the time is now to get your happiness and your self-esteem back. If you suffer from anxiety, depression, or just sheer disappoint that focuses on your past embarassment, you must learn to let go.
Thoughts focused on past embarrassment can only affect you if you allow them. First, let’s examine what truly is happening.
You are not living in the present. You are not living for the moment.
Your negative pondering about your embarrassment distracts you from your present life.
Now, no other tip will help your more than learning to live in the present. Therefore, these tips will aid you back into present day life as well as to deal with future embarrassment.
Accept that it Happened, Then GET OVER IT
Yep, you acted like a fool. It hurts, it was in front of a lot of people, it ruined everything. Do not try to immediately repress the action. Take note of your experience. Do not hate yourself! Try to examine what went wrong. Don’t let it happen again. Grow from it! Now, once you have adequately evaluated your event, do not treat the memory as a negative one. Instead of delving into depression about embarrassment, value the experience as a lesson learned.
Confront your Fears
After an embarrassing event, it is necessary to try to confront your friends, practice the activity, or visit the place in which the event occurred. You have a fear of feeling inferior or stupid because of your traumatic event. Therefore, you must confront your fear. Expose yourself to friends. Let them know you are cool; you are past the past. If an apology is in order, do it. If your experience took place in front of a lot of personal friends (not strangers), hold your head up high and be social instead of hiding because of what happened to you. Your friend(s) might even bring up the event and laugh about it. This will hurt but it is the easiest way for you to learn to laugh, even if it is a fake, forced laugh.
Focus on Your Strengths
Your embarrassing experience probably made you feel unworthy. You might have even betrayed yourself. Whatever you did, let it go. Focus on your strengths. Focus on your accomplishments. You are better than all your embarrassing moments. Once you have overwhelmed your heart with self-esteem, define a goal that focuses around your strengths. You need to avert your focus to your goal instead of dwelling on your past mistakes. Your attention will be looking toward the future. You acting out your goal with great determination will drive your focus to the present.
Meditation will help you focus on the present and train your mind to disregard discouraging thoughts. Meditation is easy and for anyone with any religious background. The easiest thing to do is breathe in and out through your nose while in a comfortable seated position. Focus on your breath going in and out of your body. Do not allow thoughts to come, just keep your attention on your breath. Calm yourself down. Focus on yourself. Meditate for a few minutes. After meditation, target your goal immediately. Make your brain focus on one task to another without much idle time. This will reduce those negative thoughts and flashbacks. Meditation will also help right after an embarrassing event to collect yourself and gain some inner strength.
Just Do Your Thing
If your embarrassment is heavy your mind, just remember that you are human. Every single human has made a mistake but to feel embarrassed by that mistake is all in the mind. Value yourself and all your weird-ness. Do your own thing. Embrace your mistakes, flaws, quirkiness, awkwardness, and imperfections. You are you and no one else. You did something that would have made other people feel embarrassed, but not you. You accept yourself and all your strange.
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