“[Insert Name Here], you haven’t met my parents yet,” sweetly she says–all so slowly.
The relationship is transforming into more than just the casual ‘I’ll pick you up for dinner’ and ‘what is your favorite color?’ At this point, it is serious.
I can describe how I met my girlfriend’s parents but they will be different from yours; my actions may not produce the same results for your own situation. Meeting your girlfriend’s parents the right way is not all about a firm handshake and a polished smile. Procedures come from specific notions and certain attitudes that a man of quality acknowledges.
If/When meeting her parents come up, there must be three assumptions:
The first is the Assumption of Significance
+ Regardless of her past relationship with them, She must feel that her parents hold some sort of significance in her life.
It’s not until you meet her parents and see your girlfriend’s interaction with them can you truly see their relationship. She may have had passionately loving parents or physically and mentally abusive; in some cases, both. Concrete observations will reinforce what the actual relationship may be. But for now, her request for you to meet them takes precedence over the past.
The second is the Assumption of ‘The Provider’
+ Regardless of her past relationship with them, She was or still is provided for by her parents.
Without these people, the person whose hands you currently hold, the person whose hair you caress, the person whose lips you kiss, would not exist. It is with their own doing that she grew happy or bitter about life. Meeting them must be objective until you have established your own relationship with them. Whether or not they were good or bad parents, it doesn’t matter at this point. They must be given the respect of being the providers.
These two assumptions can be easily cleared through discussion with your significant other but never forget that actions weigh more than words.
The third is the Assumption of Being Observed
+ This one pertains to the present and this pertains to you.
It is vital that you are aware of your actions–Think that you are under constant watch.
From now on, let’s assume that she has benevolent parents who want a quality man for their daughter. You should not aim for approval, but aim to be of quality; that is the demand and you must supply.
The Quality Man is simple.
He is clean, no matter his style
He is honest, no matter how he feels
He speaks to be heard
He senses people’s presence
He accounts of people’s emotions
He listens to absorb, not to respond
He acknowledges that people are unequal which may require different styles of interaction
He believes in himself
He knows his actions are significant
He questions the truth of his actions
He recognizes the alternatives to his own opinions
He accepts the complications of his weaknesses and does his best to compensate
He apologizes and affirms when he is wrong (He doesn’t stay in the losing side)
The real truth is, your girlfriend’s parents should be no different from other people.
There will always be opposing opinions and different perspectives, all from random circumstances. The most important quality that distinguishes a man from a boy is how he handles himself in any of these situation.
Be a man of quality and
Decide to meet your girlfriend’s parents the right way before she even asks.
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